“Happiness comes out of being willing to do your work in your twenties to find out who you are and what you love.” – Candace Bushnell
When you turn 20 a flurry of adults will offer you a lot of guidance about life. The lessons are usually versatile, but there is one piece of advice which remains universal. Be selfish in your 20s. It is a sentiment shared by parents, teachers and mentors which has been repeated each year for graduates.
Although there is an issue with being selfish in general, there is likely to be no other time in life when you’ll be as healthy, sharp and independent of responsibility. Therefore it is only right that you dedicate your time and energy to bettering each area of your life. Nevertheless, the ‘right’ way to be selfish is subjective but here’s a guide on one way to do it.
Be Selfish With Your Time
A common saying is that we have the same 24hrs as moguls such as Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey and Arianna Huffington. Therefore moving forward in life we should manage our time effectively. This means putting effort into the things that matter such as hobbies, dreams and partnerships. When possible, it’s great to expand your wider understanding of the world by reading on finances, politics and even history. Regardless, it is key to assess each day if you’re spending time contributing towards a greater goal or improving your character. If the answer is constantly no, then perhaps it’s time to re-evaluate how you dedicate your time and prioritise correctly.
Be Selfish With Your Money
Often enough the money you make in your twenties will be squandered buying the most miscellaneous objects. Whilst these things appear great, in the short-term, it’s not so fun when you’re struggling to pay your rent or phone bills. That’s not to say you shouldn’t spend money on holidays and days off. But, a small deposit into your savings account each week or even month will go a long way. Also, avoid using your credit card or taking out additional loans in order to fund a particular lifestyle you cannot maintain. Again this will hinder your ability to get mortgages, insurances and even jobs if you’re unable to pay it back. Invest your money in things that will help you in the future and make sure you save for all of life’s biggest moments.
Be Selfish With Your Career
All throughout your adolescent years, parents and guardians had the ultimate say on your life. From the schools you went to, viewpoints you had and even the political parties you chose to support. However, when you grow up it is time for the choices and responsibilities to become your own. Career choice is such an enormous decision. Most people will spend an average 90,000 hours at work in a lifetime and that’s a long period to be wasted on an unsatisfactory career. Therefore, when making decisions about your career path be selfish. Look around, explore and delve into career fields that interest you rather than satisfying other people. Even if it fails at least you know you tried and got more knowledge. Eventually, you’ll find the position that motivates you to get up to work each day.
Be Selfish With Your Health
It is typical for many of us at this age to gauge on junk food and caffeine to keep us running throughout the busy days. However, it is crucial to be aware of the strain we are putting on our bodies by consuming unhealthy foods and drinks. As mentioned in the introduction, you will most likely not be this healthy or energetic at any other point in your life. Therefore, it is good to start accumulating good and healthy habits early on so that the later stages are easier to navigate through without preventable diseases. So drink a lot of water, exercise often and sleep an average of 8 hours a night.
Furthermore, find some time to do the things you enjoy outside of the workplace. This means finding a pastime you enjoy whether it is socialising or even watching an entire series on Netflix. The key is to just enjoy you and take some time to recharge. Even Beyoncé needs a day off here and there.
This post was written by Tariro